Finding Love
Helping you find your perfect partner

• Home
• RSS

• Categories

  • Dating Tips
  • Finding Love
  • Love Letters
  • Love Poems
  • Online Dating
  • Relationships
  • Shy Love
  • Single Parents

• Love Hearts sites

Recently Written

• How to Pick Up Women – Social Proof
• First Kisses
• Pump Up Your Confidence While Dating
• Ways to Meet New Women
• Love Letter to a New Love Giving a Gift
• Classroom Seduction – How to Flirt With Female Classmates
• Eliminate the Fear of Approaching Women
• For Shy Guys – How to Strike a Conversation With Your Dream Date
• Are You a Person Who Goes For the Girl? Or Not?
• The Dating Net

Are All Men the Same

For 15 years, I believed that ‘al men were jerks because despite how much I tried to change things, I kept going through the same problems with men. If you have ever watched the movie, Groundhog Day (A weatherman finding himself living the same day over and over again -Staring Bill Murray- 1993) then you will start to understand how I was living. Perhaps you have been there with me. You try to keep yourself from being hurt and build something positive but you keep going through the same hurtful experiences each time with a different man.

I dated men that were not right for me and blamed them for all our problems. If he would just change into the man I first met or became the man I always wanted him to be then everything would be OK. I lived my life playing the waiting and blaming game -blaming him and then waiting for him to change so that I could be happy.Blame isn’t all bad. It helps us decide who is responsible for what and what we need to be accountable for. However, the balance tips to unhealthy when we blame the other person for everything that is wrong. This type of blame takes away the opportunity of growth and personal responsibility and makes us victims. We are left with no choices and no power to act. Everything we want and hope to happen is given into the hands of the person that we feel is making our life intolerable.

The power to act and make changes requires personal responsibility. Rather than focusing on what needs to change in him we start focusing on our own growth. That means looking at how we are keeping the cycle repeating. It could be things like living with false hope about his feelings for us or denying his hurtful behavior. It could be our ideas about love and loyalty- perhaps they are built on infatuation and not reality. Or it could be a fear of speaking up or saying no and as a result we are put up with things we know are wrong.

It is not about men being all the same it’s about realizing that we like and attract a certain type. Not all men are the same and by discovering why we attract who we do and then changing the pattern, we give ourselves freedom to discover other types of people.

Are All Men The Same – Written By Joanne Robinson Copyright 2008 Donna Intera

Joanne Robinson
Founder Donna Intera
Relatioship Training & Coaching for Women
Visit http://www.donnaintera.co.uk

comments

• Search & Find Love

• Online Dating Sites

  • Adult FriendFinder
  • Alt lifestyle
  • Amigos
  • Asia FriendFinder
  • Big Church
  • Bondage
  • FriendFinder
  • Gay FriendFinder
  • Grad Finder
  • Jewish Finder
  • Lesbian Personals
  • Millionaire Mate
  • Out Personals
  • Passion
  • Senior FriendFinder
  • Web Cams
  
  
  Get Paid to lose weight
  
  Free No-Spam email for online dating : at BreakThru
 

• New Friends Finder